Outgrowing your Friends..

Are you discovering that you don’t like your friends anymore, or that something doesn’t feel right?

If you’re into personal growth, you will at some point outgrow some or all of your friends. This is especially true with childhood friends. The sooner you can accept it, the easier it’ll be.

Your friends may object and ask you why you’re abandoning them, or not hanging out with them, but there’s not much you can do. The signs are obvious.

Your friends create their own reality, and if they choose to create the feeling of abandonment, it is up to them. It’s not a lot of fun, but they will get over it.

It can get lonely while you’re transitioning from one group of friends to another. You’ll wish that you could go back to the way things were. Friendship is like that.

Everything seems so much easier when you selectively pick out memories from the past. You might even try to go back for a while, but it won’t feel quite right if you no longer have anything in common.

The longer you try to resist your growth, the harder it’ll be to hang on. You will start feeling more and more disconnected from your current group of friends and drawn in another direction.

It’s not that you’re suddenly better than your friends. Look at it more as if you’re at the train station, jumping on trains going to different destinations.

As you keep growing you will literally move into another wavelength, which is why your connection to your friends is fading.

There’s always going to be that sense of obligation, of staying true to your friends, but you also have to stay true to yourself. Sometimes you just have to move on. Who knows, maybe you’ll meet up with some of your old friends downthe road.

Social Conditioning

You’ve been conditioned. I’ve been conditioned. We’ve all been conditioned. The truth of the matter is that you have no obligation to anyone.

The only obligation you have is to yourself. What this means is up to you. You can’t keep doing what doesn’t feel absolutely right, because it will end up making you miserable.

A touchy subject is family. If you don’t vibe with your family members, you don’t have to be with them. You may hang out with them around the holidays, but other than that, why would you?

While this may sound harsh, it’s the truth. Listen to your heart. It requires courage and no one says it’s easy all the time, but in the end, it is the right path to travel.

Trusting Yourself

You can let everything unfold at the pace you desire. Fast or slow, it’s up to you. Let go of any emotions that are holding you back and accept the situation you are in.

Let your feelings and heart guide you when it comes to making decisions. If you don’t feel like an activity you used to do with your friends no longer excites you, don’t do it. If something else still seems cool, do it. It’s simple.

Listen to yourself instead of your friends. It’s up to you to play out your own life.

What future do you want?

It’s always easier to let someone else call the shots, but it doesn’t lead to happiness.

Learning Process

Every person in your life is there for a reason. In the end you have to ask yourself what feels right for you.

If you don’t like your friends anymore, then you don’t like them. You aren’t abandoning your friends. You are simply being aware of the energy shifting and fading away. That’s how life works sometimes. And you have to know when to end a friendship. It doesn’t have to happen abruptly.

You may feel obligated or bad about cutting your friends loose, but if you’re not 100% happy with where you are and who you are spending your time with, it’s time for change. It’s time to look for a new social circle.

It takes courage, but sooner or later it has to be done. You can always opt for a comfortable life of complacency, but who in their right mind really wants that deep down?