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Rejection...

While the bathroom and kitchen may be the most "dangerous" rooms in the house in terms of physical injury, most of our emotional injuries happen in the bedroom. When your partner rebuffs your advances; avoids your attempts at intimacy; turns away when you try to kiss him or her; is reluctant to have date nights; goes to bed significantly before or after you do; falls asleep on the couch or in the kids’ room; drinks too much during a romantic dinner and crawls into bed without you; or claims exhaustion when you’re finally alone, or on a vacation—you are going to feel rejected and it's going to hurt. One reason even small rejections sting is that our  brain  is wired to respond to rejection similarly to the way it responds to physical pain. Rejections from your partner have an even greater impact as they come from the person who knows you best, who sees you most fully (or is supposed to), and who is supposed to love  you for who you truly are. Therefor...

The Emotion Kept Secret..(Envy)

Envy has many manifestations, and some are hidden dragons. Envy is a secretly held emotion. If you are  envious  of someone it's unlikely that you will admit it to anyone, except perhaps to someone who might also be envious of that other person and will participate with you in denigrating them. The circumstances in which you might be envious will always involve a social comparison or  competition  between yourself and another person. Such competition and comparison with others are a part of the yardstick by which you measure yourself--your self-evaluation. Since envy is triggered only when you come up short, that's part of the reason why it is experienced as such an "ugly" emotion. In order to adjust the measurements that will neutralize your envy, you will have to diminish the source, elevate yourself, or do both. Envy makes you work hard and it seems as though you keep coming back again and again to measuring your self-worth against that of the other person. Give...

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Envy....(You want what they have)..

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They have it, you want it, so you feel envy. Envy is not only felt for material possessions, more often we envy people who are well regarded, admired, influential, and successful. We wish we had their  stature . At its root, envy is feeling bad because a colleague has now achieved a higher stature than you. It is an egocentric and selfish view of fairness. Definitions Wanting what someone else has [laz]Desiring other's  stature  objects Displeased about an event desirable for another [OCC]Feeling inferior to another person. Envy is caused by a dissatisfaction with self-image—your perception of your actual  stature . This dissatisfaction is also called low self-esteem—a poor self-appraisal of your actual  stature . Because you feel inferior to the person you envy, envy is related to  shame . Envy encourages you to achieve higher stature. You believe that “if I had what you have, then I would be happy.” Note that  envy  and  gloating ...

Envy....(You want what they have)..

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They have it, you want it, so you feel envy. Envy is not only felt for material possessions, more often we envy people who are well regarded, admired, influential, and successful. We wish we had their  stature . At its root, envy is feeling bad because a colleague has now achieved a higher stature than you. It is an egocentric and selfish view of fairness. Definitions Wanting what someone else has [laz]Desiring other's  stature  objects Displeased about an event desirable for another [OCC]Feeling inferior to another person. Envy is caused by a dissatisfaction with self-image—your perception of your actual  stature . This dissatisfaction is also called low self-esteem—a poor self-appraisal of your actual  stature . Because you feel inferior to the person you envy, envy is related to  shame . Envy encourages you to achieve higher stature. You believe that “if I had what you have, then I would be happy.” Note that  envy  and  gloating ...

The Transformation...

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Let us Celebrate makeup artist and their Works....Hakeem effect is probably one of the best FX MakeUp artists from Africa right now, and as far as MDB is concerned, the best in Nigeria.  The self taught make upartist renown for his ability to transform actors to almost anyone has on the set of a new movie transformed Ghanaian actor Chris Attoh into an Albino Military man.  In the end result, Attoh looks like he was born an albino and Hakeem's work looks very believable.