Can Men and women be friends........

I kinda believe men and women can be “just friends”. Why only kinda? Because, in my opinion, the environment that allows for a satisfying friendship between the opposite sex looks a lot like the environment that creates satisfying romantic relationships. Therefore, I believe that being friends with the opposite sex is only done successfully when boundaries are applied.
Boundaries can be natural or contrived. Here’s an example of each.
Contrived: if one (or both) friends are married/spoken for then of course they are not free to explore the romantic possibilities and they make behavior decisions that prevent romance from blossoming. The ingredients for a love relationship may exist but they use boundaries to prevent it from going down that path. Done properly, sure they can be friends. It doesn’t mean they wouldn’t seek romance if the barriers to romance were to be lifted. I call this type of friend, a friend-in-waiting. I can often spot them as they love to approach my husband and begin the conversation with, “How’s your wife?” – Translation, “Are you still married? Happy?”. I can tell when it’s not genuine concern about me, especially when they don’t know anything about me. I digress…
Natural: If at least one friend is not attracted to the other, perhaps they have a physical/ behavioral quality that is unattractive to the other (think: He’s not that into you), that usually creates a natural boundary to converting from friendship to romance and helps keep the friendship in the friendship box.
take an  instance of steve harvey............l suspect Steve doesn’t have women as friends because he’d prefer not to struggle with the boundaries required to respect his marriage while having an opposite sex friends. As a celebrity, I’m guessing most ladies are friends-in-waiting. I also believe he’s had issues of infidelity in a previous marriage see:(http://urbanbellemag.com/2012/11/steve-harvey-says-he-wasnt-a-faithful-man-until-he-met-his-third-wife.html). Considering this, he probably knows his limits of what works for him and what doesn’t.

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