Your Husband Six basic needs.

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Every man's needs are different but most men have some common basic needs that we wives have to meet for the good of our marriages. The key to a successful marriage is selflessness/unselfishness. If you can put your spouse's needs before yours? You are on the right track and your marriage will bloom like this beautiful flower in my small garden.
If you truly love your husband, you'll want to make him very happy and these six things truly make men happy, I know because I have been married for over a decade with 5 kids by God's grace. Doing these things is easier in some marriages than it is in others, but we just have to keep our marriages intact and create the "happy family" we want to see, God helping.

1. AN ATTRACTIVE SPOUSE
As a wife of 16 years and counting, I know how comfortable wives get around their husbands with time and that is a good thing. As a mother of five, I know how easy it is to stay in pyjamas all day especially on weekends, I know how easy it is to wear a black hair net from evening to noon, I know how easy it is to that that that. Some days are like that, it's difficult and you can't help it but don't let that become a habit. Put an effort, try harder, work hard at making yourself attractive to your spouse. There is no natural beauty, you may have those good features but if you do not put an effort, the beauty won't show. You may feel you are naturally good looking but that's not all, consciously do something extra, make yourself look attractive and sweet even at home. That doesn't mean we go shopping for beautiful clothes and cosmetics every other week, it means waking up in the morning, taking care of yourself first. As I type on this laptop right now, my husband ate his breakfast talking with me looking natural but wearing light makeup. I don't plan on going out today but first thing this morning, I brushed and took care of especially my face even before packing lunchboxes and his breakfast. While he ate, we talked about the Dallas shooting watching CNN breaking News and just generally talking about all the shootings in the Unites States. At a point, he carried his breakfast from the dining and joined me in front of the TV and I don't know if my smooth looking fresh face is the attraction or the News, whatever.
My daughter saw me putting on some foundation and she was like "mummy have you had your bath
already?" and I said "No I don't want to be looking at you guys with these dark circles and morning breath, will have my bath later but for now only my face enjoyed an early bath and I won't need to wash it again later" I know there are days I'm just anyhow in the morning but sure I have more attractive than 'anyhow' days.  Pregnancies and Sleepless nights for five, plus the stress of raising a family, if we don't consciously do it, we become very unattractive. My husband works late, so I try my best to prevent him leaving the house with me in pyjamas and coming back again to me in pyjamas [that's boring and unattractive]. Some of us don't have those good genes that never age o, without a conscious effort, you start looking like hubby's elder sister. Even after dinner most times , do you know I consciously try to look fresh and not change into pajamas until my husband is back home? I know there's still much room for improvement but I'm also really trying my best.

2. DOMESTIC SUPPORT
 This has to do with the creation of a peaceful and well managed home environment. While he does his part, you fulfil your part by cooking his meals, washing and keeping the home looking great. Even when you have house helps, you may need to supervise else they do anyhow. Check that they are really keeping the home clean and safe without sweeping and avoiding corners, under tables and under beds. Let him feel comfortable at home, that we have little kids doesn't mean the sitting room is always sprayed with grains of rice or toys, it can still be clean and neat. No one likes to come home after a stressful day at work into an untidy home.

3. ADMIRATION
 From time to time, show and tell your husband how much you appreciate his efforts in whatever that he does. I'm not too expressive like that or good at those kinds of things but trying my best. This morning I remember telling hubby that his "excessive" gymming is really paying off because he looks really toned and kind muscular after 50, I even went further to tell him that at this age, if he loses more weight I'll be forced to divorce him because I like his present look and I think he likes that I notice he is working hard at being healthy and fit for all of us. He used to be big with a small big belle, but not anymoresaid he'll beat me to it and I think he has succeeded, so why shouldn't I compliment him? When they come home from the barber, the things we like to hear from them when we return from the salon are also what they enjoying hearing after that nice hair cut. Say something nice and mean it.

4. SEXUAL FULFILMENT
Every marriage is different. You know what brings that fulfilment in yours. I'm not an expert here and would love to learn too. Please share.

5. RECREATIONAL COMPANIONSHIP
 My husband and I are a good example of a couple who hardly have anything in common. We don't have the same hobbies, we don't enjoy the same music, we don't like the same food and much more but when we are together like me trying to enjoy a Chelsea game with him, and so on we just try our best. You don't have to both love watching movies before you go there, you can go with him and just stare at the screen once in a while and try to enjoy the movie or game  with him.

6.  GOOD COOKING
 Men love good food, I repeat oh... Men love good food. Good food doesn't have to be expensive, just cook with some passion, put your attention there and make sure the salt, pepper, and other tastes come together and agree with human taste buds. Do not always burn food because you are doing something else while cooking. Pay attention to the kitchen and your cooking. If he likes moi moi served with his rice and you can't cook moin moin very well, there is nothing wrong with sometimes picking good moin moin from a restaurant to serve with your well cooked rice. He likes coated chicken with his jollof and you are not good in that area but great at making jollof, why not sometimes get that coated chicken to serve with your rice? It helps to supplement sometimes if you can afford it. Taste the food before you serve it and if you are not sure? Serve something else, let the family enjoy the food you serve them, not just eating to quench hunger.

I drop my pen for now.